We look up at the same stars and see such different things.

It’s funny how some quotes you read really resonate, and here is one of them. I’ll let you into a little secret, I’m not a massive fan of the month of December and not overly excited about the whole Christmas thing. I know I know….baahhh humbug and all that. I have two beautiful children who love Christmas (obviously) and I adore the magic and wonder that Christmas affords them. So why oh why am I not a fan?

So our imprinting years, from 0-7 years old, are where we develop and embed our first values and beliefs learnt from those around us- predominantly our parents or our primary care givers. I remember many a Christmas where we didn’t have what many would deem as a ‘traditional’ day. My Dad would often be working all day so we would wait for our meal and presents until he was home and we also often had an eclectic mix of individuals with us. I vividly remember my Dad verbalising the fact that he really didn’t like Christmas and this has stayed with me. This thought that my Dad shared has had an impact.

Fast forward to the now. As a 40 year old Mum and two, it’s interesting how I have reflected on that one comment made. We all distort, delete and generalise the information that we take on board through our filters for it to make sense to us in our own model of the world. I had for many years distorted that comment made by my Dad to mean something very different to its intention. He chose to work on Christmas Day because he was the head of the Samaritans and they were always short staffed at this time of year. He chose to do that so he could give back to others. As a child I distorted this to mean he would prefer to be away from his family because he didn’t like Christmas and didn’t want to celebrate with us.

As we know we can’t change the past, no matter how hard we may want to. The past is just that – the past. What we can change is how we choose to think about it and how we want it to impact the way we move forward.

It really is up to me to make that choice. I don’t have to decide that I am not going to be a massive fan of Christmas, I could choose to make a change. Maybe this year I might. Little tweaks in the way I approach the festive season, little moments to reframe the thoughts I may have about it and the ability to laugh at the fact there is a sense of bahh humbug and that’s ok 😊

So with that let me wish you all a very happy and healthy Christmas and remember we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have and are aware of. Be kind to those around you as you never know what their story is.

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